All Things Raymond

Who are you? Where do you belong? What are you meant to be doing? Have you ever asked yourself those questions? Most of us have at some point or another, that’s not to say that we have all come up with answers because in most cases we have not. I have read about people who have spent their entire lives searching not for a place, or an item but instead for themselves. This may sound far-fetched but aren’t we all searching for something at some point or another. Maybe you are searching for friendship, acceptance, Love, happiness, or comfort. These are all things that people search for daily and when you put these things together and mold them into the bigger picture in all reality what we are trying to figure out is… Who am I? Where do I belong? and Am I meant to be where I am right now? If you are looking for answers here I will stop you before you read any further because I don’t have that answer for you, but I can tell you that you do have the answers to all of those questions and more. They are all wound tight deep within yourself. I personally feel like sometimes I am too wound up in what society says is the normal and where society tells me I should be and what I should be doing and where I belong. Finally after lots of searching I have found that the answers are all within reach for all of us to grasp.

First of all take on the “Who are you?” question, Obviously who you are is not written up and given to your parents in an owners manual when you are born, instead it is instilled within you. Take a hard look into the mirror and look yourself in the eyes and ask yourself, ” What defines ME?” Who you are is what you let define you, that will most likely be different for all of us since I have yet to meet two people who honestly have the same defining characteristics or traits. All too often I see people around me allowing someone else in their life define who they are and this in turn is doing nothing but allowing that other person to deprive you of who you really are. I feel like a lot of us have grown to be okay with submission to those around us simply to conform to avoid ridicule. Is that what defines you? Fear? Fear of what may come of you if you decide to stand on your own two feet and truly embrace who you are deep within. In my personal opinion the only person besides god you will ever have to answer to is yourself and if you are not open and honest with yourself about who you are what makes you think you will be able to be honest with the big man…

Where do I belong? I think this goes hand in hand with the Who am I question, the first step in my mind is to figure our who you are before you can embarque on this journey to find where you belong. I know that is a lot easier said than done since that first step of figuring out who you are as a person may take months if not years of your life. Even thought I feel these fall in line with each other I also think they are two completely different processes that you will take to get to conclusion of each question. I know for me, this has been a long road to figure out where I belong. Stop thinking ground level on this one and go deeper, I am not referring to Geographical location I am referring to a total Where do I belong in Life? Yes I think for me this question encompassed my physical location for quite sometime and I think I have finally nailed that one in. As I mentioned before there really is no definitive answer to some of these questions and this is one of them. For example, I know that I am in Las Vegas for more than myself and my family alone. I am here to help change others as well, You can ask me what I mean by that and I would probably just look at you for a while and say, ” I really do not know, but I know that is what I am here for.” Of all places for me to end up I ended up in Las Vegas, one of the cities in the United States known for tearing apart hopes and dreams of thousands of people each year, yet somehow I know I belong here for good reason. When you end up were you belong in life you will know, It may not be a letter in the mail telling that you have arrived to your promise land, but your sign will appear and that is when you need to take the next step and seize that moment and make the best of what are given and always keep in your mind that all things really do happen for a reason, even if you don’t know what that reason is.

For me I think the question of “What am I meant to be doing?” Is one of the most difficult questions to ponder because I truly think that you do not receive the answer until your last few days here. Yeah, that’s what I said,” I don’t think you will know what you were meant to be doing until you are on your last leg in life.” Again, think deeper than the surface here. I am not talking about your day job… I know I am not alone in my thinking that we all have a higher purpose that we are here for and even when you get that tugging at your heart that you should be doing this or that we are wired to question it. Think about why we question things. It is not for knowledge most of the time, When you were 17 or 18 and getting ready to do something stupid did you question it because you wanted to know more about whatever you were about to do, or did you question it because you were out of your comfort zone? It was due to comfort. We do this when it comes to a lot of things in life, one that I have seen up close and personal is with following god. We become hesitant and almost begin to question, ” uhhmm, excuse me.. God, are you sure that is what you want me to do?” Ask yourself, why would you question that? I’ll tell you why I did at one point in my life. It was all because I was out of my comfort zone and when you are out of your comfort zone it is no longer easy to do and becomes difficult and we do not like difficult. So my thoughts on this tell me that when you are in your last days on earth you will see the things that you devoted your life too and it will either bring you joy knowing that you accomplished something and made a difference or you may look back and say to yourself, ” I didn’t do anything” and at that very moment we will know what we were meant to be doing.

Overall I think we are all searching for answers to at least one of these question when I think we all have the answers already and we just need to remove the clutter that we have scattered on top of them. The key to all of this is figuring out what defines you. Getting rid of the facade of happiness and really finding true happiness within ourselves is the answer to most of the questions we ask ourselves. Lets stop letting those around us directly or indirectly define who we are and remember that going against the grain is not a bad thing so take that step to start defining and creating the real you, because once you find happiness within yourself you will be able to honestly answer the question of who you are and with that answer comes many more. In my mind you must define yourself long before you attempt to define the world that you will call home because without a clear picture of who you are you will never be able to answer these other questions that rely on the real you as a foundation. So when that time comes stand up and take that moment and make it yours and don’t let anyone define it for you. You may not agree with my views on this topic and that is your right, and if that’s the case I strongly suggest you click the red comment button in the upper right hand corner and take the time to ” Turn Your Thoughts Inside Out”

Raymond