With Halloween around the corner skeletons seem to be out in the masses, But what about the ones that hide… You know the skeletons in the closet.. We all have them, you can be the mayor, chef, pro athlete, bum, or self-made millionaire but I can guarantee you have a few of these guys in your hypothetical closet. The real question is how do you let these skeletons affect you now? Or an even stronger question is how do others perceive you because of your Boney buddies. All to often we meet awesome people who just don’t allow you into their world due to something from the past, before I go any further let me clarify that statement.. I am not saying that everyone needs to be an open book because I would then be a hypocrite because If I were a book, it would be closed locked, bound in duct tape and buried. It takes a lot for me to let you in, and it is not necessarily due to skeletons but remember, We all have them. We can also ask ourselves why more people than not do not allow others into what they call life, Is it just because we are all selfish and want to keep “OURSELVES” to “OURSELVES”, I don’t think that is it at all, I think we all have the fear of ridicule or judgement from others. Now ask yourself before you judge someone for the PAST, ” Are you Perfect?” Ha, I think not.
I had a conversation with a friend who mentioned Skeletons and the possibility of people judging this person because of the skeletons they have in the closet and to be honest with you this provoked a ton of thought in my mind. How many times have you hesitated to open up or even just connect to someone because of your skeletons and doesn’t that basically make you a prisoner of your own devices?? Maybe I have a different view than some people do when it comes to people’s pasts and who they have become today. I do not think that your past labels you today, I do firmly believe that your past and the skeletons in your closet help to form the person that you have become today. Just like a last name, If the history of a last name labels who you are today most of us would be stage-coach robbers or slave drivers or…. the list goes on and on. But that is not how last names work, I believe that you make the last name what it is, YOU MAKE YOU, My opinion of you does not make you, the words I mumble under my breath about you does not make you it would make me.
When I think about the people who make be introverted due to the past that they have faced I realize that it is not the skeletons in the closet that are causing the closed feeling and the worry of judgement, it is the people who have judged the individual in the past. If you have never experienced judgement by another person you would have no idea what I am talking about but trust me I speak from experience, the judgment from a so-called friend or family member can hinder you for quite a while, and I don’t think any of us have the right to judge people about something that was done and put behind them long ago, maybe you are just what that person needs to get out of that hypothetical Funk they are in. Maybe just a smiling face, or open arms to someone who has been turned on by those they trust.
I think it is time to pull those skeletons out of the closet, dust them off and decorate them for all to see because your skeletons do not make you less than anyone. In fact in some cases those skeletons are battle wounds from life and it shows you went through life charging forward whether you made mistakes along the way or not you are “LIVING” and that is what makes “YOU”. So if you are one of those that walks around with your head down and keeps your skeletons locked away, let’s get them out together and walk with our heads up and remember those worth worrying about will not get down on you no matter how ugly your skeletons are.
These are obviously just my opinions and things that have been running though my mind and if you disagree…… Excellent, take the time and turn your thoughts inside out.
Raymond
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